The first time I consciously came into contact with personal development was a little over 2 years ago. I had had a very difficult time financially and psychologically, which also started to take a toll on me physically. I felt everything but love for myself and my life.

I was living with my father at the time. A father who decided to leave the family when I was 10 years old, and start living the high-end lifestyle that he never had the chance to live when he was younger. He lived just a few kilometers away, but the distance between us was vast. Hence, our relationship was suboptimal. When I expected him to be a responsible and loving father, I instead became nauseous when he opened his mouth to speak.

The opportunity that arose two years ago was a chance at a clean sheet. I was given the opportunity to move to my aunt, our beloved Marie Abild, in the south of Sweden in order to sort out the mess that my life had become and understand that life is really what we make of it. She believed in me when no one else, including myself, did.

This is where my great journey began. Together with her fiend Pamela von Sabljar, these two women saw me as a human being, not as someone who did nothing but fail. I was seen and acknowledged, just by being me. This was just as intimidating as it was wonderful. My first thought, after an evening together with Marie and Pamela was: “how is it possible for people to dislike each other when there are loving situations such as these?”.

I attended my first major course in personal development in May 2013. Unfold Life. I received a lot, but most of all I let go of a lot. My life has contained much grief and blame pushed into my system, which has contributed to my living situation without me even being aware of it. So when I returned home was boosted, felt passion for life and wished for so much more!

The problem was that I had not realised that I also needed to work for it. My life has been served on a silver platter when it comes to actions and consequences. No, I don’t want to compare my trials as more or less difficult than anyone else’s. But in terms of being “rescued” from otherwise drastic consequences when I have not taken responsibility, my life has been served on a silver platter.

The big blast arrived this spring, when I (clearly by mistake) crashed my aunt’s car. The car itself was not the problem, it was not beyond repair and money would solve it. What hurt me the most was my aunt’s reaction when I had yet again proved that I had not learned to take responsibility. Here I am driving my aunt’s car as if it were my own.

This became my turning-point. To see her trust that had always been there suddenly disappear was the worst experience of my life. If Marie didn’t believe in me – who would? I inspected my life and asked the question: what parts do I need to change? The answer was: most parts! I set out to examine myself. Got a proper job to start paying back, especially to cover the repairs on the car, but also to prove my determination, and that I wanted this with all of my heart.

My point is that I believe that universe does 50% of the job, as so long as we do our 50%. Life wishes us the best, as long as we attempt to live a good life! I leaned on the universe’s 50%, and was content. And *poof* it disappeared from under my feet.

Now that I’m taking responsibility for my 50%, I’m running my own business, works as a consultant for the same company, and can bill good amounts of money that create stability in my life. But it doesn’t stop there. I work out, express my love and appreciation to the people around me and deal with the parts of my life that can be developed. I am myself fully! Because I choose it every day, every minute, every second. I made a decision always to be true to myself, and it has taken me where I am today. A happy 26-year old, hungry for life and curious about what life has to offer.

My name is Tim Andersson, and I’m happy in life. I have started my journey as a transformer and assisting leader at Unfold Transformations courses. Maybe we’ll meet at Unfold Business or Unfold Core this fall? I hope to see you there!

Hugs and kisses
Tim